Build intimacy and friendship with you partner: Learn the tools you need to become a good listener
How to Become a Good Listener (Tools for a Happy Marriage)
A Therapist’s Guide to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: The Psychology of Withdrawers (Lesson 6)
In this 6th installment in a Therapist's Guide to EFT we explore the psychology of the withdrawer
A Therapist’s Guide to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: The Psychology of Pursuers (Lesson 5)
Learn about the psychology and internal experience of what EFT calls the pursuer in a relationship
A Therapist’s Guide to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Enactments (Lesson 4)
Working with Enactments In today's lesson we will looking at the concept of enactments, which are one of the main ways EFT therapists try to effect change in the way couples interact with each other. Lesson 4: What You will Learn in Today's EFT Lesson: Understanding the concept of enactments and how they can help…
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A Therapist’s Guide to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Working with Emotions in EFT (Lesson 3)
Tracking Negative Cycles and Working with Emotions in EFT In today's lesson we will be looking at how the emotionally focused couples therapist helps couples through step 1-4 of the therapy process. This process involves identifying negative cycles and understanding how they are generated. Once this understanding has been accomplished couples are helped to expand…
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A Therapist’s Guide to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Steps and Stages (Lesson 2)
Steps and Stages of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy In today's lesson we will be looking at the sequence couples have to go through to complete a full course of emotionally focused couples therapy. As we saw in part 1, EFT provides an attachment understanding of why couples end up having relationship problems. With this in…
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A Therapist’s Guide to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Attachment (Lesson 1)
Attachment Theory as the Foundation for Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy In my work as a couples therapist in both my private practice and at the University of Houston I have often been in a teaching role to newer therapists wanting to learn more about becoming a couples therapist. As a certified emotionally-focused couples therapist this has…
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Do You Have Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationship?
Having good boundaries in a relationship is immensely important. Whenever boundaries are either too strict or too loose the relationship suffers... If boundaries are too loose they can become an existential threat to the relationship: A relationship can only exist when clear boundaries are drawn around a couple and the sanctity of the relationship is…
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How Couples Can Resolve Differences in Parenting Styles
A common source of conflict in couples is how to best raise children together. Parenting is a stressful endeavor and often brings out deep-rooted differences in how each person believes their children should be raised. One person might be more authoritarian and strict whereas the other is more egalitarian and permissive, or one person might…
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What to Do if Your Partner is Always Unhappy or Dissatisfied about Your Relationship
What to do when your partner continues to express dissatisfaction with your relationship? Learn how to address this issue without losing yourself in the process.
What to Do if You Are Feeling Unfulfilled in Your Relationship
Learn how to best communicate with your partner if you are feeling unfulfilled in your relationship.
How to Be Your Partner’s Greatest Stress Reliever
Learn what to do and what not to do when your partner is going through a stressful time and is counting on you for support
The 3 Most Common Issues that Bring Couples to Couples Therapy
What are the three most common issues that bring couples to couples therapy? Find out what they are and what you can do about them
5 Steps to Transforming Relationship Resentments
Learn 5 easy steps to turning moments of anger, hostility, and resentment into moments of greater intimacy and closeness.
How To Turn a Negative Relationship Around
Many couples struggle daily with conflicts, negativity, or unmet needs. Learn how to get unstuck from the negative pattern and turn your relationship around
Negotiating Different Needs for Closeness and Alone Time in Romantic Relationships
How do you negotiate different needs for closeness and alone time in a relationship? Learn how to respect differences without sacrificing your own needs.
When Shame and Anxiety Interferes with Your Sex Life
Sexual issues in a relationship are often about psychological or emotional conflicts that get in the way of enjoying sexual pleasures and emotional intimacy
The Art of the Apology (How to Achieve True Forgiveness)
The ability to offer a sincere apology is a necessary skill if you want to succeed in your relationship. Learn what to do and what not to do to make your partner forgive you for your wrongs.
My Partner is Depressed: What Should I Do?
What do you do when your partner is depressed? Learn the Do's and Don'ts...
5 Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship
How do you know if your relationship is a healthy one? The general rule of thumb is that a relationship is as healthy as can be when both partners feel secure and safe with each other. Both partners need to know that they can turn to each other if they need something and that they…
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