Find out how you can feel close again, if you feel lonely in your relationship, or feel like you are losing your emotional connection with your partner.
How to Improve the Intimacy in Your Relationship
Best Ways to Handle Strong Emotions in Relationships
Learn how to handle strong emotions in your relationship so you can communicate your feelings without pushing your partner away
The Most Common Ways Partners Attempt to Control Each Other
One of the most frequent issues in relationships is the battle for control and power. Learn how to better recognize the signs of a controlling relationship
Approaches to Couples Counseling: Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy
Learn about Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) and find out if EFT is the couples therapy approach for you.
How to Respond When Your Partner is Acting “Crazy” (and Reasoning Doesn’t Work)
One of the things that are most difficult for many couples to deal with are those moments when one or both partners just aren’t acting rationally or reasonably. One person, for example, might be full of rage and accusations about something that leaves the other person perplexed, and at their wits end. “All I…
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How to Save Your Relationship from Failing
For a long time we have been thinking mistakenly about couples issues. We have thought that if one partner is unhappy, the solution lies in either changing their own expectations, or asking for a change in their partner. We have thought that relationships are essentially about compromises between two people who ultimately have to change…
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How to Stop Your Spouse from Nagging
It is one of the most common occurrences in couples therapy: a nagging, complaining wife, and a husband who feels criticized and can’t seem to please his wife. These are of course gender stereotypes, but they are stereotypes for a reason. Statistically, it is often the woman who complains about not getting enough attention or…
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How to Choose the Right Couples Therapist
You may have noticed that you aren't that happy in your relationship, or may find that you and your partner keep on getting stuck in the same old arguments. You want to fight for your relationship, but don't really know how to move out of the rut you are in. You have heard of couples…
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How to Know if You Are Compromising Too Much in Your Relationship
In many relationships the issue is that couples compromise too much – not too little. Want to know why? Then this blog post is for you…
Why Do People Stay in Abusive Relationships?
As an outsider looking in, it is difficult to understand what motivates a person to stay in an abusive relationship. Here are some reasons to consider...
Can a Relationship Recover from an Affair?
How do you move forward after discovering that your partner has had an affair? Many people ask themselves this question. They want to know if there is hope at the end of the tunnel, or if it is better to just call it quits. The Difficult Road Ahead: For those who choose…
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Doing Therapy While Staying at Home: Benefits and Limitations of Online Therapy (Telehealth)
What is Telehealth Therapy? In these times of coronavirus and social distancing there is no need to forego therapy. Just like work meetings are being conducted via teleconference to enable working from home, so are therapy sessions. Telehealth is the word used to describe the myriad of ways therapy can be offered through…
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Reviving Your Relationship: What to Do When Your Partner is Inattentive and Disengaged
One of the most frequent reasons couples come to couples therapy is that one person experiences the other person as withdrawn, checked out, or inattentive. One Woman's Story: A woman in her mid-twenties, for example, complained that her husband enjoyed playing video games more than he enjoyed talking to her. Because she did…
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How to Resolve Recurring Conflicts in Your Relationship
How to Resolve Recurring Conflicts in Your Relationship: John Gottman, one of the most acclaimed researchers on couples conflict, has argued that about two thirds of all issues couples argue about are irresolvable. He calls these issues, perpetual conflictsand they consist of difference in taste and habit that are so deeply ingrained in…
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Are Men from Mars and Women from Venus?
What Do Women Want Out of a Relationship? “Why is My Husband or Boyfriend so Thoughtless and Uncaring?” Many women in heterosexual relationships often find themselves asking this question. Their deepest wish is that their husband or boyfriend will finally wake up and treat them like they truly care. For many women the…
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The Fear of Being Yourself in Your Relationship
Fear and anxiety about being oneself often plays a significant role in people’s relationships. Oftentimes, however, we are not aware that we are holding parts of ourselves back. We have simply adapted to the relationship and learned to be a lesser version of ourselves. A husband, for example, may not really be aware that he…
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Signs that You May Be in a Controlling Relationship
(and What to Do if You Are)
Over time an unequal power balance may develop in a relationship where one partner becomes the more dominant person and the other becomes the more submissive. In this article you will learn to recognize the signs of an unequal relationship and will learn more about what to do if you feel controlled or…
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Why Couples Fight and How to Stop It
What to Do When Your Relationship Feels Like a Lot of Work: Relationships can be a lot of work, especially when hidden resentments remain unexpressed or when one or both partners begin to feel a lack of connection. Oftentimes such unexpressed needs or feelings can lead to a perpetual cycle of negativity where both partners…
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Emotion is the Music of Our Relationship
A relationship is like a dance. One partner puts their feet in response to where the other puts theirs. And the tune we dance to is almost entirely made up of emotions... When one partner says: "Why do we never go on dates anymore?" they are communicating an emotion. Depending on their tone of…
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4 Destructive Habits to Avoid in Your Relationship
4 Destructive Habits to Avoid in Your Relationship: Couples researcher and therapist John Gottman has studied the characteristics of couples who are in successful relationships, and also couples who are in relationships that ultimately fail. What he has found is that couples who end up separating or divorcing, engage much more often in…
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