In this 6th installment in a Therapist's Guide to EFT we explore the psychology of the withdrawer
A Therapist’s Guide to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: The Psychology of Withdrawers (Lesson 6)
A Therapist’s Guide to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: The Psychology of Pursuers (Lesson 5)
Learn about the psychology and internal experience of what EFT calls the pursuer in a relationship
A Therapist’s Guide to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Enactments (Lesson 4)
Working with Enactments In today's lesson we will looking at the concept of enactments, which are one of the main ways EFT therapists try to effect change in the way couples interact with each other. Lesson 4: What You will Learn in Today's EFT Lesson: Understanding the concept of enactments and how they can help…
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A Therapist’s Guide to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Working with Emotions in EFT (Lesson 3)
Tracking Negative Cycles and Working with Emotions in EFT In today's lesson we will be looking at how the emotionally focused couples therapist helps couples through step 1-4 of the therapy process. This process involves identifying negative cycles and understanding how they are generated. Once this understanding has been accomplished couples are helped to expand…
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A Therapist’s Guide to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Steps and Stages (Lesson 2)
Steps and Stages of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy In today's lesson we will be looking at the sequence couples have to go through to complete a full course of emotionally focused couples therapy. As we saw in part 1, EFT provides an attachment understanding of why couples end up having relationship problems. With this in…
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A Therapist’s Guide to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Attachment (Lesson 1)
Attachment Theory as the Foundation for Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy In my work as a couples therapist in both my private practice and at the University of Houston I have often been in a teaching role to newer therapists wanting to learn more about becoming a couples therapist. As a certified emotionally-focused couples therapist this has…
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The 3 Most Common Issues that Bring Couples to Couples Therapy
What are the three most common issues that bring couples to couples therapy? Find out what they are and what you can do about them
How To Turn a Negative Relationship Around
Many couples struggle daily with conflicts, negativity, or unmet needs. Learn how to get unstuck from the negative pattern and turn your relationship around
Approaches to Couples Counseling: Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy
Learn about Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) and find out if EFT is the couples therapy approach for you.
How to Resolve Recurring Conflicts in Your Relationship
How to Resolve Recurring Conflicts in Your Relationship: John Gottman, one of the most acclaimed researchers on couples conflict, has argued that about two thirds of all issues couples argue about are irresolvable. He calls these issues, perpetual conflictsand they consist of difference in taste and habit that are so deeply ingrained in…
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Why Couples Fight and How to Stop It
What to Do When Your Relationship Feels Like a Lot of Work: Relationships can be a lot of work, especially when hidden resentments remain unexpressed or when one or both partners begin to feel a lack of connection. Oftentimes such unexpressed needs or feelings can lead to a perpetual cycle of negativity where both partners…
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Emotion is the Music of Our Relationship
A relationship is like a dance. One partner puts their feet in response to where the other puts theirs. And the tune we dance to is almost entirely made up of emotions... When one partner says: "Why do we never go on dates anymore?" they are communicating an emotion. Depending on their tone of…
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